21 MAY

While people like to reflect on their achievements, actions and past on January 1st. I prefer doing it on May 21st. Why? Because for the longest time I associated years with certain achievements I’m supposed to accomplish. You know, ticking off that famous life checklist and, like every year, getting a new haircut of course. You know what they say about a woman cutting her hair right?! It’s time for a change.

Today’s is the day. I’m 28 and I can’t help but ask myself if I am where I thought I would be at that age. I can definitely tell you, no I’m not. That plan was doomed from the beginning but habits are hard to kill they say. So I ask myself a second question, which is probably the most important one: am I happy in the life I am building for myself, that’s far away from what I planned when I was 14? Yes, I am.

After last year where the answer to that question was a no, it honestly feels good to feel positive again. Don’t get me wrong not all of last year was a « blah », but still wasn’t the greatest year. Do I regret it ? Not at all. Do I wish it didn’t happen ? sure, but you know, life has ways to kick you in the ass when you are unable to see the signals by yourself. But I’m not here to talk about that.

Today I just want to remind myself that it’s okay to not be where I thought I would be in my life. That it’s okay not to achieve things in the timeframe I set myself to do them and that it’s more than okay to go off the road that you set for yourself because that’s where I ended up finding the most joy and happiness. Plus, if I’m being completely honest I am still ticking off certain things of my list but I’m also adding knew things and this time I’m just not adding an age to do it. Does it mean I will stop going through my life plan that I created when I was a teenager? certainty not. I’m a dreamer at heart. I’ll just keep it as a reminder of things I truly want. And at the end of the day, I am blessed I’m surrounded by the best people and that’s more that I could ask for.

Now it’s time to eat cake and… make a wish 😉 

Oh yes! Are you wondering if I got my new haircut? Of course I did!

With Love,

Brenda